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tulip
Singapore
237 Posts |  Posted - 10/18/2005 : 12:53:46    
| Just wanna share tis wif u..
have any1 of yr moms so against teaching children? my mom is 1 of them. u see, I have 1 cousin who have 2 sons and when they were very little, she was busying getting tutors, teachers etc. to guide them, in short, she is like those 'gan chiong' parent who 'force' kids to attending all sort of classes. As a result, they dislike studying when they grew up and subsequently learnt to be 'ah beng'. So, now my mom is very resistent against this sort of things and even tell me that 'enrichment' classes are useless becos bb memories r very short, so whatever they learned when little, they will forget very quickly.how can I stop her from thinking dat way?
Frances, Mum of baby Raphael |
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MatrixCow
3211 Posts | Posted - 10/18/2005 : 15:31:27
| | tulip, there's a v big difference in forcing the child to attend and letting the child attend something tht they like and develop some skills in it. I think if u think your child is interested in a particular activity then just go ahead and enroll, bring your mum to see the lessons and let her see with her own eyes how mch her grandchild enjoy the activity and how fun learning can be! |  |
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Eileen
Singapore
2487 Posts | Posted - 10/18/2005 : 16:14:19
| Hi Tulip,
I know what u mean. I have a cousin like that too. But like MatrixCow said, there is a big difference between enjoyment & forcing. It's also about not overloading your child "Shi4 ke3 er2 zhi3". No matter how much he/she enjoyed the classes, if they are overloaded, the interest will not be there. Enrichment classes are just tat, to enrich your child, whether in academics or otherwise.
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mindy71c
Singapore
494 Posts | Posted - 10/18/2005 : 16:14:52  
| Hi Frances,
It's alittle hard for u huh? For my case is my mil. She doesn't really like those classes I gave my son in the initial stage too. But then I didn't say much to her cos I feel I know what kind of teaching mtd and classes are suitable for my kids.
In this case is yr mother and it's a bit difficult cos we wouldn't want to hv any arguments with our own mothers. Try telling her nicely and explain to her...I believe she can understand.
Rgs, Mindy
God Bless
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mamamia
Singapore
1385 Posts | Posted - 10/18/2005 : 17:25:13 
| hi tulip,
it seems that it takes real life examples to convince your mom of the demerits of attending enrichment courses. So why don't you research on just 2-3 real life positive examples to change the perception and show her the merits?
Her perception is not wrong, cos seeing is believing. I had cousins who were so super lucky(cos during my generation, enrichment is unheard of!!)and had so much enrichment when they were young. True enough instead of showing excellence, they rebelled against the idea of having so much enrichment and ended up expressing their defiance in their results.
however, there are very positive examples even in this forum itself whereby the kid thrives when they go for such activities, eg.eileen and mumw2gals. in today's family where siblings are few, such enrichment also provides the environment for them to interact with the other kids.....I am sure your mom can understand this point well.
but study deeper into the issue, are you imposing on her to take your kid for enrichment where she has to participate or wait? maybe she resents that as well cos the younger the kids are the higher participation from adults and sometimes old folks not up to it, it is understandable. so you need to know what's the real issue, then you can resolve with the right solution.
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tulip
Singapore
237 Posts | Posted - 10/18/2005 : 19:40:53
| Hello mommies,
thks for sharing yr stories! I guess when I signup my boy for class, I have to bring my mom along to see for herself that enrichment class r not dat bad!
Hello Mindy,
think it's harder for you since it's your in-law, think dat with in-law it is more difficult cos they are after all hubby's mom..:(
Frances, Mum of baby Raphael | |
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my_rock_baby
Singapore
1770 Posts | Posted - 10/18/2005 : 22:49:04
| Hi tulips,
when I first sent Linus to childcare, my mum is pretty against it as she thinks her grandson will get sick very often and to her childcare is a place where parents just dump the kids there and the teachers just feed and put the kids to sleep wholeday!!  And indeed Linus get sick frequently in the first 6 months and she really nags at me everyday! But then when she realised that Linus has learn a lot in school and really can do a lot of things himself, she goes around telling his colleagues and friends that his grandson is very clever can do this and that because "the school teachers teach him well" and he "study" in school haaa.
3 months ago, I told my mum that I am going to enrol Linus in Phonics class. I explain to her what is Phonics. She said "u sure he will understand meh, but last time u never learn u also no problem in school what, somemore the teacher is an ang mo Linus can unstand what he say meh?". anyway I also go ahead and enrol him. Now Linus is completing his Basic Sound class and he comes back knowing how to spell simple words when i just need to pronounce the words emphasisng the sound. My mum is pretty impressed. Normally she will stay at home to do her housework while my father drives us to Phonics class on Sunday morning. Once, she purposely tag along as she wanted to see how is Phonics class like. And she is really impressed with the way the ang mo teacher teach the kids and how the kids response so well to the teacher.
Then recently I decided to let Linus try piano class. My mum said "aiya music not important, why waste the money... wait he learnt halfway don't want to learn, like your younger brother last time, learn violin halfway then stop waste my money, etc". This time round, I also enrol him first. Now Linus already attended 4 lessons and my mum tag along for 2 lessons. She finally understand why I insist on letting Linus try. During one the lessons, the teacher commented that Linus can catch the rhythm very well and he has strong fingers. My mum so happy after hearing it  Now she goes around telling his colleagues and friends that her grandson has inherited my father's genes (my father used to be a musician last time playingpiano and organ).
Mummy of LiNuS
My photo album @ http://sg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/my_rock_baby/my_photos
My homepage @ http://www.geocities.com/my_angel_linus
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my_rock_baby
Singapore
1770 Posts | Posted - 10/18/2005 : 22:50:41
| Hi tulips,
when I first sent Linus to childcare, my mum is pretty against it as she thinks her grandson will get sick very often and to her childcare is a place where parents just dump the kids there and the teachers just feed and put the kids to sleep wholeday!! And indeed Linus get sick frequently in the first 6 months and she really nags at me everyday! But then when she realised that Linus has learn a lot in school and really can do a lot of things himself, she goes around telling his colleagues and friends that his grandson is very clever can do this and that because "the school teachers teach him well" and he "study" in school haaa.
3 months ago, I told my mum that I am going to enrol Linus in Phonics class. I explain to her what is Phonics. She said "u sure he will understand meh, but last time u never learn u also no problem in school what, somemore the teacher is an ang mo Linus can unstand what he say meh?". anyway I also go ahead and enrol him. Now Linus is completing his Basic Sound class and he comes back knowing how to spell simple words when i just need to pronounce the words emphasisng the sound. My mum is pretty impressed. Normally she will stay at home to do her housework while my father drives us to Phonics class on Sunday morning. Once, she purposely tag along as she wanted to see how is Phonics class like. And she is really impressed with the way the ang mo teacher teach the kids and how the kids response so well to the teacher.
Then recently I decided to let Linus try piano class. My mum said "aiya music not important, why waste the money... wait he learnt halfway don't want to learn, like your younger brother last time, learn violin halfway then stop waste my money, etc". This time round, I also enrol him first. Now Linus already attended 4 lessons and my mum tag along for 2 lessons. She finally understand why I insist on letting Linus try. During one the lessons, the teacher commented that Linus can catch the rhythm very well and he has strong fingers. My mum so happy after hearing it Now she goes around telling his colleagues and friends that her grandson has inherited my father's genes (my father used to be a musician last time playingpiano and organ).
Mummy of LiNuS
My photo album @ http://sg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/my_rock_baby/my_photos
My homepage @ http://www.geocities.com/my_angel_linus
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tulip
Singapore
237 Posts | Posted - 10/19/2005 : 07:30:47
| Hello my_rock_baby,
yr mom sounded exactly like my mom!btw, how old can a bb learn phonic? Rafe is now 9 and half mths old.
Frances, Mum of baby Raphael | |
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my_rock_baby
Singapore
1770 Posts | Posted - 10/19/2005 : 08:28:18
| Most of the Phonics class outside are for 4 years kids. As that is the age when their tongue are matured and they can follow the teacher to say out the sound correctly without much problem.
However, I understand there is this Zoo Phonics that is for babies also. But I am not very sure how babies are being taught. You may want to do a search on "zoo phonics" to see what other mummies commented..
Mummy of LiNuS
My photo album @ http://sg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/my_rock_baby/my_photos
My homepage @ http://www.geocities.com/my_angel_linus
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mindy71c
Singapore
494 Posts | Posted - 10/20/2005 : 10:03:11
| =) Hi Frances,
Ok lah...do find it ok cos since mil is not my mama so I dun really bother explaining to her at all abt those lessons I've for my kids. But I do let my mother knows EVERYTHING regarding wat the kids do in class etc.
At first my mother and my aunties were so against me sending my boy to ballet classes when he was 3yrs. But the thing is I didn't force my boy at all. He enjoys the class sooooo much despite me telling him y not we quit the lessons. He refused, he said he wants the ballet classes. So y not?? Since he loves it.
Yes bring yr mama along...she sure to change her mind and agree with u.
Rgs, Mindy
God Bless
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tulip
Singapore
237 Posts | Posted - 10/20/2005 : 21:18:00
| huh? boy learnin ballet? can meh? my mom sure scold me if i bring him to ballet class! aiyah, she has those very traditional tinking dat boy can learn girly stuff mah..
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